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The Advantages and Disadvantages of Being Single

There has been an everlasting debate on the subject of which is better; being single or being in a relationship. While those in a relationship will be quick to say that loving someone and being loved back in return is the best feeling in the loved, the people belonging to the single school of thought would argue that love is not the best feeling in the world, rather it is that feeling you have when you need to let go of a shit badly and you find a toilet to dump it in.

Things You Should Know About Friends With Benefits

When the movie “Friends With Benefits” first hit our TV screens on July 22, 2011, many people began to think twice about having a special friend with benefit. The hassles of a real relationship can be sometimes daunting or sometimes people just want to have fun without too many complications. The obvious solution therefore becomes having a friend that comes with special benefits. Pause for just a second, before you start a friend with benefits relationship, here are things you should know.

Advantage
Convenience: The convenience of having someone you can shag with without having to worry about feedings is very good. It’s all about the sex and nothing more. Young people especially love this as they can easily move on from yesterday’s bang and put their mind on other things. The sex is mind blowing and that is all that matters.

Disadvantage
Want More: One source of headache in FWB is that someone always ends up wanting much more than what was originally agreed upon. When you are friends with benefits with someone for over three months, there are tendencies to start developing deeper feelings and complications start arising.

Advantage
Fulfilling Fantasies: In a FWB relationship you are able to explore and experiment with a lot of things. Unlike when you are in a serious relationship where you are bothered about what your partner may think if you try to act out your wild fantasies. FWB allows you to explore and if the person isn’t cool with it, you can simply end the whole affair.
Disadvantage
Safe Sex: Having regular sex with a particular person may result in you forgetting about safe sex. The logic is usually since you are their only sex partner, you can do without protection. FWB sex is also most times instant, less talk and more action. Careful thinking can be lost in the heat of the moment or when in the throes of passion.

Advantage
Less Drama: FWB affords you peace of mind. There is always less drama and demands on you as a person. No girl to ask you for money to fix nails, hair or BIS and the many other things those girls can come up with. Since your partner is already a friend, they understand you already and even when you are stressed out, you can bang your frustration away.

Disadvantage
How Do You End? Everything that has a beginning must have an end and believe me when I say it can be quite awkward having to start up that conversation to tell your partner that it’s over. It usually comes with those beginning lines of ‘while the sex has been good and the company fabulous, it’s time to move on.’ True feelings are not involved but still the other party might be hurt.

Advantage
Bang Whoever: FWB gives you all the freedom in the world. One night stands, flings or whatever you want. You are not hooked to anybody and your friend with benefit can’t get jealous because they understand the deal. It is advisable that you keep other partners away from your FWB to avoid scenes or a tensed situation and do remember to play it safe. Also respect your friend with benefit and don’t put them in uncomfortable positions.

Disadvantage
Juggling: Being a playboy isn’t such an easy task. So you want to sow your wild oats but can you handle all the work involved? It takes a lot of energy and maturity to handle more than one friend with benefit so if you are going for more than one, be ready for all the work.

If you think you can handle the tide then dive right in and get swimming. Follow me on Twitter and IG @gidigenius to keep updated.

Making A Long Distance Relationship Work

Being in a long distance relationship can sometimes be a drag or out rightly frustrating. Your friends have their lovers around them while yours is miles away from you making the world seem bleak. It is not your fault you got struck by cupid’s arrow and the object of your affection happens to be on the other side of the world. Thoughts of how nit cannot work is running through your head and you are about to give up on your long distance relationship? Not to worry, here are a few tips that might help you.

Talk Always: The fact that you are in a long distance relationship automatically means you cant get to see your boo all the time or as much as you want. Substitute the physical contact with constant communication. You cannot talk too much to each other and luckily we live in a modern age where there are so many cool channels of communication. Explore the platforms of Facebook, Twitter, Yahoo Messenger, 2go, Badoo, WeChat, MySpace and the common IM platforms of BBM or Whatsapp. Talking with each other always helps take away the feeling of being alone and makes you feel connected to him or her. The more you talk, the more the distance seems meaningless.

Be Honest: Just like every other relationship, long distance relationships become useless and pointless when it is built on lies. Be opened and honest with your lover. Telling him/her the truth allows for the relationship to grow smoothly. However in being honest, be careful not to talk about unnecessary things like who you are having a crush on or the new guy or girl that caught your fancy.

Visit Each Other: You would have probably heard the saying that distance is crap when the love is true. To an extent this may be true but there are times when you feel so alone that you feel you need to see your special someone. Distance makes the heart grow fonder but you make your presence also valueable so that your absence is meaningful. Plan visits to see one another and make sure it is convenient for the both of you. Whoever is traveling to see who must be totally comfortable and all necessary arrangements must be made with all details checked before the trip is embarked on. Having a visit schedule on how often you want to see each other usually helps like whether you want to see once or twice a month.
Video Chat: While planning trips or the hassles of a travel may be a bit expensive r stressful for you. It costs less in terms of energy and money to video chats. Don’t just talk over the phone or chat, try and see each other through video chats. Take advantage of Skype and get chatting. It helps take away the strain of not seeing; I remember once singing for my girlfriend on Skype after she complained of a stressful day (even if my voice was worse than the croak of a frog).

Surprises: Who says you can’t have all the thrills of a normal relationship in a long distance relationship. Spice up your affair, surprise your darling with the occasional gifts (not necessarily something too expensive), send e-cards, pay a surprise visit (don’t do anything too crazy though). Stuffs like this helps keep the excitement in the relationship.

Do Things Together: Your friends are going on dates with their sweeties and you stuck at home with no one to cuddle with, don’t get all moody, there are many things to keep you occupied. Find something doing with your loved one. You can both decide to watch a movie together simultaneously and talk about it as it goes on, play online games together, send pictures to each other to show off your new look, a new dress or that nice shoe you just get.

Having been in a long distance relationship for a while now, these are tips that have helped my relationship grow and even my friend has been able to learn one or two things as my relationship encouraged him to get into a long distance affair as well some months back. Learn’t a thing or two from the article? Follow @gidigenius on Twitter and IG for more interesting updates.

Five Signs You Are Bad in Bed

Every guy likes to believe that he is a Superman in bed and that the ladies can’t just get enough of him; but sometimes the ladies might just be a little disappointed with your performance. Here are 6 signs that can tell you that you are bad in bed:

Ask Poshkid: Help, I am Having Sex With My Ex and In Love With Another Guy and I Have a Boyfriend

I dont normally run a relationship column on this blog except for the random tips but I got an interesting mail yesterday that arrested my attention on a relationship issue so I decided to publish it and based on your reactions may start a new category titled "Ask Poshkid". The mail was interesting enough for me to publish it and i would like you to leave your candid opinion and advice to the young lady. Read below:

You and Your Fashion Statement

Dress the way you want to be addressed is one common saying that we have all heard at one time or the other of our lives that many of us do not take serious. We all love to look fashionable even if there are those who push the boundaries and these set of people either end up making fashion statements and becoming trendsetters or end up making blunders and making a public spectacle of themselves. Fashion has been defined in so many ways that it would be inappropriate to say there is only one correct definition of fashion, so for me I have come to the conclusion that fashion is simply a person’s personal style not minding whether the next person likes it or not as long as the wearer is comfortable.

However as much as we may love to push limits and boundaries, there are generally acceptable ways of dressing in the society and though there may not be a written law about it, it is an unspoken agreement that the people live by. The fashion of the people of Nigeria has evolved over time with a gradual change from native

5 Things Men Want From Women in Bed

Most times many women believe that men just want to climb and get off again but for most men it is beyond just getting laid. They want to get satisfied and also feel fulfilled so just lying there and doing it like it is an obligation isn’t really going to help you keep your man.

The Anti-Gay Bill; My Open Minded Thoughts

In a world of over a billion people, the recent passage of the anti-gay bill in Nigeria can be said to be a blatant example of the failure of democracy in the country. Although a very well accepted bill by the Nigerian populace which sees homosexuality as Unafrican and an unnatural act, one begins to wonder if the country honestly expects a population of over 150 million inhabitants to be of the same characteristics?

5 Crazy Underwear Designs That Will Shock You

From bras that send out tweets to bras that can only be unclasped by true love, here are five shocking bra designs that will either leave you laughing or mouth agape in wonder.

Dont Be Fooled; Beauty Myths Revealed

There are many false stories that go around about certain beauty routines and beauty experiments that many women find worrisome. These fallacies have many wondering if they are doing the right or wrong things; today let’s pick on some beauty myths and inform you on some that are true while debunking the false ones.

Man Throws Daughter From 3 Storey Building as Seun Kuti Condemns Anti-gay Bill and Wizkid Goes Fatherly,

Wizkid Goes All Loving About His Son

Wizkid is acting the part of a caring a father and showing that he loves every part of fatherhood. The musician shared the photo above of his son on his Instagram page saying he was rushing to put Bolu to bed but met him already asleep in his bed.

The Sometimes Annoying Love of Parents

Is it just me going through my normal period of weirdness or is it something that the average developing teenager seems to feel; parents can be very annoying? I have pondered this question in my mind with no definite answer coming to solve this difficult question, to me it seems like one of those difficult maths equation I had to solve in secondary school and for the life of me I just never was able to get any of them right.

What Do Women Want in Relationships?

The question of what women want in a relationship has continued to be a troubling one for most men. Men often grumble or complain about how frustrating it is trying to figure out their wives or girlfriends because they can’t seem to get it right or do anything that pleases them. However what women want in a relationship is quite simple and some of them are listed below: 

7 Ways to Know She is into You

Women can be very complicated and throw conflicting signals that tends to get the men folk totally confused. You like her a lot but one minute she is blowing hot and the next she turns cold, you don’t know what to do and you are about to give up on her, below are some things she may be doing to help you know if she is into you.

Letter to My Distant Lover: A Song of Remembrance

This letter is an epilogue Letter to my 2013 Ex, if you missed that CLICK HERE

The tears ushered me into the New Year, a burden of pain I bore as I trudged on life’s weary path. Suddenly a beacon of light appeared in my dark world; I found a rare gem on the dirt road that I chose to walk on (Drake’s Voice: Best I ever had, you the fucking best). Like the beautiful star far up in the sky, out of reach yet

Tips on Getting Over Your Ex/Heartbreak

At one point or the other in our lives we all have felt betrayed or heartbroken by that special someone who we thought was the centre of our universe. While some shed the tears freely and succumbed into depression, others found a way of growing stronger and getting over it. Below I have listed four simple tips on getting over the seemingly difficult situation: